Patterns

I believe that the submissive symmetry would be the hardest characteristic to change. In the book it states that submissive symmetry is basically like both parties sitting back and wanting the other person to make the decision. I also find this interesting because it happens to me a lot! I notice that I do not always want to make the decisions in my interpersonal relationships so I allow the other person to make the decision; I am being submissive by also controlling. I think that the rigid complementary role would be the most damaging to a relationship. I feel this way because when there are clear dominant and submissive roles in a relationship it is hard to switch those roles and a person may feel stuck beneath their partner; they might also feel a lot of pressure due to being the dominant person. I feel like both submissive symmetry and rigid complementary roles would harm self-esteem the most because of the ‘less than” feeling a person could obtain.